Stress just seems to keep on increasing in modern life. And there is evidence for that! According to a study done by the American Psychological Association, at least one third of Americans report that they are living with extreme stress, and about half of Americans think life keeps on getting more stressful. Despite the modern conveniences and the technological advances we enjoy, stress just keeps on looming larger in our lives. Money and work were at the top of the leading causes of stress, which is not surprising in our uncertain and challenging economy. [Read more...]
How to Get Through Life’s Hurdles…With the Help Of The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life! As we all know, life is not smooth and predictable. It has twists, turns, and is full of changes. Although as a psychotherapist I hear many people say , “I don’t like change,” upon exploration, I invariably find that everyone actually welcomes change , but only on their own terms, how and when they want it, and when it is in their control. Good Luck! Who has not experienced change and stress that they would not even wish on their worst enemy, never mind themselves!
Enter The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life: How To Get Through Life’s Holes Without Getting Stuck In Them! written by two psychotherapists. The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life uses the analogy of Swiss cheese as a metaphor for life itself. After all, life is not smooth and predictable like American or Cream Cheese. Rather, life has holes, and it’s how you get through them that counts! In fact, it is the holes in our lives that give us depth of character and make our life rich in meaning, just as the larger the holes in the Swiss, the sweeter the taste of the cheese. Thus, we need holes in our lives to become who we are!
What are the holes in your life? How can you use the lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future rather than wearing your mistakes, setbacks and failures as a cloak draped around you? Your setbacks do not need to become your defining moments in your life that weigh you down and stop you from becoming the person you could be. If you set yourself free of the shackles of the past that no longer work for you and no longer define you, and get through the hole in your self-perception and come out on the other side, you will get a whole new perspective on life!
How about being defined not by your crushing defeats and disappointments but rather by your dreams and aspirations? One of the book’s chapter titles, in fact, is called, “Living whole despite the holes!”
How about every day writing down 5 things that you are grateful for, as positive thinking and gratefulness will help you through the holes in your life with a sense of humor, lightness. Optimism helps you give up bitterness, grudges and negative thinking that makes you stuck.
So go ahead, Smile And Say CHEESE!
The Swiss Cheese Toolkit is made up of a metaphorical item for each “slice” – or chapter – of the book. Each item reminds us of an important life lesson so we can free ourselves to lead a positive and healthy life. [Read more...]
Here are some quick tips:
It is funny how we all know that life is not fair, but still we expect it to be! It is one thing to know intellectually that life is not fair, but another thing to give up the sense of entitlement and expectations that it should in our day to day lives.
Life’s unfairness often comes in the form of our discontent over the actions and reactions of others in our lives. People give us so much to react against! All too often we expect people to be fair and act in ways that we consider “right” and often find ourselves angry and indignant over words, actions and reactions from others. Expecting that people should “know better” we often unconsciously use ourselves as a yardstick for how people should be, thinking “if that was me, I would …” Holding grudges, being hurt and bitter while holding others accountable for our own difficulties leads to much wasted time. As a psychotherapist for 35 years, I have been struck with how many people blame their parents, exes, children, co-workers for their problems. Just recently a 64 years old women complained that her problems in life were her parents fault. WHAT? Didn’t she see that this victim mentality was the reason for her disappointments? Didn’t she realize that how her life turns out is because of her, not them? Such wasted time and sadness results from thinking life should have been more fair.
This judgmental mindset can lead to lifelong discontentment when people in our lives, including parents spouses, coworkers, our children, our friends and neighbors fail to support our notions of how they should be. You think that people stress you out? Try your head! No one can really stress you out except yourself! That’s right! Not even traffic or the snow! Rather it is our attitude and our perception of the stressors in our lives that cause us internal stress. Barring physical endangerment and life debilitating illness, much of our reactions to stress can be totally in our control, and not in the control of others! So next time you think that “she makes me so mad” or “my mom stresses me out” realize that that could not be further from the truth!
What does Swiss Cheese have to do with it? How can thinking Swiss help us?
Swiss Cheese is a metaphor for life itself. After all life is not smooth and predictable life American or Cream Cheese. Like the Swiss, our lives have inevitable “holes” and “imperfections,” and these challenges are what enriches our lives and gives us character and depth. Even the image of the Swiss with all its holes reminds us that we need holes in our lives to make us distinctive and more unique. Interestingly enough, it is a fact that the bigger the holes of the Swiss, the sweeter and more distinctive the cheese. What an analogy to our lives! We develop resiliency by overcoming challenges and obstacles. By moving through life’s holes rather than getting stuck in them, we become stronger. By embracing the life’s holes, we make peace with the fact that life has its share of stresses, disappointments and setbacks, and it was never meant to be predictable, smooth and fair. Life misfortune and even trauma is not reserved for only the bad eggs in society.
So, it might sound nice if like did not have holes and everything went along swimmingly, but no one has that kind of life. It is up to us to make the holes in our lives rich in learning and insights so that we will emerge out of the holes rather than stay stuck in them. By embracing the holes in our lives, we can shift from bring stuck in the “whys” in our lives to focusing on to “what’s next?”
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When you think of the holidays, what comes to mind? If you are like most people, on the top of your list are family gatherings, time spent with close friends, lots of good food and drink, gift giving, a time of cheer and joy….and stress.
In our current precarious economic climate, with high unemployment, corporate downsizing, the collapse of the housing market, the conditions of the holiday season are shaping up to be stressful indeed. Despite these times of economic uncertainty, holiday gift giving is at the forefront of people’s minds, creating a large amount of stress. In one psychological survey, 50-70 percent of people rated money and gift giving pressure high on their holiday stress list. Too many of us end the holiday season with charge cards run up along with our debt from giving gifts we can’t really afford, while we carry around extra pounds we have accumulated by excessive holiday eating. For all the hype going into the holiday season, many of us are left with a post-holiday ‘let down’.
The Swiss is coming! On October 17th The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life will be available for purchase!
Here is a small taste to introduce you to the theory!
The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life uses Swiss Cheese as a metaphor for life itself. Life is not predictable and smooth like cream cheese. Our lives are really more like Swiss with all its distinctive holes, and without the holes, there would be no Swiss! Our lives, likewise, have inevitable “holes,” and imperfections,” yet these holes give us our unique character and depth. It’s a fact that the larger the holes of the Swiss, the sweeter and more distinctive the cheese. What an analogy to our lives! We develop resiliency by overcoming challenges and obstacles. By moving through life’s holes rather than getting stuck in them, we become stronger.
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